Welcome to the archive. Here you will find all my blog articles since 2019 on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Process-Based Therapy, new advances in psychology, personal stories, and much more. You can find all my blog articles in reverse chronological order. Enjoy.

Blog Articles

2024

How to Stop Being an Impostor

April 16, 2024

Going Beyond Persistent Self-Doubts and Reclaiming Your Story

6 Signs That You’re Stuck in a Negative Narrative

March 13, 2024

How to Overcome The Story of “Not Good Enough”

The Power of Writing About Your Values

February 15, 2024

A simple exercise to rediscover your purpose and find meaning

How a Broken Elbow Is Helping My Resolutions

January 22, 2024

Being guided by the deeper values-based journey

Six Things That Change With a Process-Based Approach

January 2, 2024

The Future of the Mental Health Landscape

2023

Mental Health Care Is Broken. Here’s How We Fix It.

November 20, 2023

Revolutionizing Mental Health Care With MindGrapher

Four Qualities of Mentally Strong People

November 9, 2023

How to overcome adversity and grow on your challenges

How To Deal With Overwhelming Feelings

October 23, 2023

The Simple Three-Step Formula

What The Future of Mental Health Care Looks Like

August 28, 2023

And How To Realize It

Why People Get Stuck in Therapy

July 31, 2023

(And How They Get Better)

The Laziness Cure

June 29, 2023

How To Build Authentic Motivation

When You’re Just Not Feeling Motivated

June 13, 2023

Six Things You Can Try To Overcome Your Resistance

Love and Loss

May 21, 2023

A Professor’s Final Message to Students

How To Thrive With Your Community

May 4, 2023

Eight Principles For Building Stronger Groups

Practicing the Skills You Need to Change Your Life

March 9, 2023

Everyone is familiar with the struggle to retain skills once learned. It’s a process that is ever present in psychotherapy […]

The Darwin Effect: How Evolution Can Guide Your Success

March 9, 2023

Last Sunday, February 12, was Darwin Day and it is worth a moment to think again about his relevance to […]

So You Messed Up Your New Year’s Resolution

March 9, 2023

Three Big Questions To Get Back On Track

What I Learned About Pain From Almost Being Killed

January 9, 2023

A long time ago, I almost lost my life at work. My dad sold aluminium to aircraft manufacturers in San […]

2022

Dealing With Stress During The Holidays

December 28, 2022

The holidays are often the time of year where family comes together. Distant and close relatives show up …

Screens, Avocados, And Learning To Deal With Pain

November 24, 2022

If you get lost in painful thoughts and feelings, it often helps to do this simple technique.

Four Fs That Make A Freakin’ Difference

November 8, 2022

When you ask high achievers why they succeed where others fail, they often reply with what psychologists call “self-efficacy” – […]

Tune in; Turn on; Figure it out

November 5, 2022

The history of psychedelics is deeply intertwined with the history of humanity. Indigenous cultures often ingested hallucinogenic substances in spiritual […]

Everything Important About Mental Health You Learned In The Gym

October 10, 2022

How can you become more mentally resilient? I think it’s possible to give an answer that covers almost everything science […]

How to Know If You Have a Good Therapist

September 6, 2022

When you think about visiting a therapist for the first time, you might feel quite uncomfortable. After all, why should […]

The Most Important Skill Set in Mental Health

August 12, 2022

Why does psychotherapy work? Until relatively recently, many scientists studying methods of improving mental and behavioral health have delayed answering […]

How To Create Lasting Change

July 1, 2022

The internet is full of advice. I’ve written a few self-help books myself and I’ve created many scores of blogs […]

What Your Body Knows That You Don’t

June 15, 2022

Life is constantly teaching you to be smarter and wiser. With every consequence you face, you learn more about which […]

The Secret Formula of Self-Kindness

April 30, 2022

Imagine you had a friend who is there for you whenever you need them. Someone who cares about you, who […]

The Subtle Art of Doing What Matters

April 15, 2022

Doing what matters comes with pain. But we can learn to be more effective about it. Here’s how.

How To Stop Sabotaging Yourself

April 4, 2022

Why do we lash out at our partner, when we want to be kind and caring? Why do we isolate […]

What To Do When Your World is Falling Apart

March 19, 2022

How To Cope With The Trauma of War (1 of 5)

Why Meditation Doesn’t Work For You

February 8, 2022

The Rise of Fast Food Meditation

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2021

The Greatest Horror Story Ever Told

October 28, 2021

It’s nearing the end of October, and Halloween is about to begin. This is the time of monsters. The time […]

The Problem With Personality

September 30, 2021

Why You Are Not Who You Think You Are

The Bittersweet Art of Acceptance

September 9, 2021

How to deal with what feels hard and difficult.

What We Can Learn From Simone Biles

August 4, 2021

The Importance of Flexible Strength

A Brand New Way To Boost Your Intelligence

July 12, 2021

In 100 years, no method could reliably improve people’s Intelligence. Until now.

Thanking A Hero I’ve Never Met

June 29, 2021

How A Small Gesture Changed My Life

The Secret Life of Emotions

June 16, 2021

Emotions seldom do what we want them to. Here’s what you can do to get in control.

Why I Always Sign My Mails Like This

May 13, 2021

The Life Lesson Hidden In My Signature

The Shortest Ultimate Guide to Dealing With Emotions

April 12, 2021

Emotions are like the warning signal’s on your car’s dashboard. Here’s why you use them wrong.

“I’m Normal” and Other Lies We Tell Ourselves

March 29, 2021

Why we are all misled by statistics

How my Son’s Black Belt Reveals the Biggest Scientific Error in Our Culture Today

March 15, 2021

After an 11-year effort, my 15-year old son earned his Black Belt in mixed martial arts yesterday. My wife and […]

What Most People Get Wrong About Love

March 10, 2021

When people talk about love, they often mean the intense kind of involuntary emotional states you “fall” into that go […]

Finding Joy In Boring Chores

February 4, 2021

I drove my son on a 25 minute ride to his Dojo for his karate class tonight. I waited and […]

2020

Is Your Spouse This Selfish?

December 28, 2020

How to turn your spouse from selfish to selfless

The Psychology of Failing Relationships

December 8, 2020

There are few things in life more important to your overall happiness than the quality of your relationships. And among […]

Why Some Parents Deal Better With Corona

November 2, 2020

The one thing well-functioning families have in common

How To Deal With Loss

September 28, 2020

Loss can be incredibly painful, but there is something precious inside of it.

Why Science Matters: The Uncommon Sense of ACT and Psychological Flexibility

September 21, 2020

In today’s world, apps and websites are how people get a great deal of their mental and behavioral health information. […]

The Secret To Overcoming Life’s Challenges

September 14, 2020

Your body knows the secret to dealing with difficult challenges. Here’s how it works.

Why It’s So Damn Difficult To Wear A Mask (And How To Do It Anyway)

August 19, 2020

The Coronavirus has changed all of our lives, and – depending on the country you are in – also your […]

The Power of Getting a Guide

July 20, 2020

We all have people in our lives that we look up to, that inspire us, and that make us want […]

What If You Have “Bad” Values?

July 13, 2020

Knowing your values is important for a meaningful life. But what if your values are bad?

Why The Mental Health System Is Failing Us

June 2, 2020

In the 13th century, medics commonly treated mental illness by drilling a hole into a person’s head, thus releasing demons […]

Take a Knee and Feel the Pain of Others

June 2, 2020

Racism runs deep in the fabric of our cognitive networks, driven by fear, objectification, failures of perspective taking, and self-avoidance. […]

Six Psychological Steps To Do in Corona

April 25, 2020

The Corona pandemic is a mental challenge. Here’s how to come out on top!

The Five Challenges of Staying at Home

April 6, 2020

How staying at home can affect your mental health, as well as what you can do about it.

How to Stop Touching Your Face

March 25, 2020

There is a scientifically proven trick to getting control over your bad habits.

36 Tips To Make Resolutions That Stick

January 15, 2020

We all have goals we want to achieve and habits we want to change. Yet too often we stand in […]

Read This Before You Make a Commitment!

January 7, 2020

Decades ago, as a rising academic, I had to choose between two universities: The prestigious Washington University in St. Louis, […]

2019

How to Achieve Your Biggest Goals

December 31, 2019

I’ve taught dozens of people to play the guitar, and I’ve learned to predict who will learn to play well: […]

How To Find Your Life Purpose

December 24, 2019

I once had a client who, when asked about her deepest values, paused for a long time, before she finally […]

When Life Seems Pointless

November 28, 2019

A song I like to listen to reminds me in its lyrics that in 5 billion years the Andromeda galaxy […]

How To Get Out Of Your Head

November 6, 2019

The human mind is a problem-solving machine. It can come up with creative solutions for the most complex problems, helping […]

How To Control Your Mind

October 27, 2019

Your mind can be your biggest enemy. On a daily basis, it spews out difficult thoughts like “I’m not good […]

How to Stop Feeling Bad

October 23, 2019

What do you think is the most frequent complaint when people seek therapy? In my experience, it is a variant […]

The Key to TRUE Belonging

October 23, 2019

We all yearn to belong to others. You can see it in infants who cry out for their mother. You […]

A Liberated Mind – My Writing Process

September 12, 2019

Question #1 What is the central theme of the book?   The central theme of A Liberated Mind is that […]

Small Questions for Big Change

May 15, 2019

How to increase your chances at success dramatically.

How to Deal With Obsessions and Compulsions

May 8, 2019

How to escape the prison of your mind and enjoy true inner freedom.

Four Mindsets to Get Back on Track

January 30, 2019

How to make a change when change feels impossible.

The Principle of “Just Cuz”

January 22, 2019

The first of January is a significant date. Not only is it the beginning of a new calendar year, it’s […]

2017

The Simplifying Vision of Evolution Science

September 22, 2017

In every area of life science if you stop and ask the question about a structure or process “why is […]

The Future of Evidence-Based Behavior Change

September 22, 2017

When ACT first appeared on the scene in a big way, mainstream CBT was not exactly thrilled. In 2004 I’d […]

Finding the Key

June 2, 2017

The key to the human mind is to understand human symbolic communication. That is not an original idea – in […]

Having a Hard Time Sleeping? Do Nothing!

April 21, 2017

Do you toss and turn in bed? Can’t get to sleep (or go back to sleep) no matter what you […]

2016

An Interview with Jonathan Bricker

December 16, 2016

The following is an interview between Steve Hayes and Jonathan Bricker on the occasion of Jonathan’s TEDx talk passing the […]