Life is constantly teaching you to be smarter and wiser. With every consequence you face, you learn more about which actions likely lead to pleasure, and which actions likely result in pain. For instance, if you see a glowing, red circle on top of a stove, and you dare to touch it, you are in …
Imagine you had a friend who is there for you whenever you need them. Someone who cares about you, who listens patiently, and who is kind, forgiving, and compassionate. It’s probably fair to say that we all would want a friend like this. And even more: We likely all want to be this kind of …
Why do we lash out at our partner, when we want to be kind and caring? Why do we isolate ourselves, when we already feel lonely, and crave connection? Why do we drink alcohol, smoke tobacco, and give in to other vices, when it harms our health? And why do we know all these things, …
It’s nearing the end of October, and Halloween is about to begin. This is the time of monsters. The time of vampires, werewolves, mummies, and other horrific figures. People dress up in all sorts of ways to represent humanity’s deepest and darkest fears. In reality, however, people’s biggest fears look a bit different than what …
Emotions seldom do what we want them to. Here’s what you can do to get in control.
Emotions are like the warning signal’s on your car’s dashboard. Here’s why you use them wrong.
When people talk about love, they often mean the intense kind of involuntary emotional states you “fall” into that go by that name. It’s a model of love you see in Disney movies, hear about in pop songs, and read about in corny romance novels. It’s the kind that gives you “butterflies” 24/7, makes your …
Just because you’re not sick, doesn’t mean you’re healthy. We are used to that idea in physical health. Being cancer free is not the same as being fit—you have to take the steps needed to develop your physical strength, endurance, and flexibility. Not having the flu is great, but vigor depends on eating well, exercising, …
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