by Steve Hayes | Oct 28, 2021 | Anxiety, Anxiety Disorders, Cognitive Defusion, Emotion
It’s nearing the end of October, and Halloween is about to begin. This is the time of monsters. The time of vampires, werewolves, mummies, and other horrific figures. People dress up in all sorts of ways to represent humanity’s deepest and darkest fears. In...
by Steve Hayes | Sep 9, 2021 | Acceptance, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Anxiety Disorders, Denial, Depression, Emotion, Happiness
There are only a few skills in life as important as the skill of acceptance. Whether it comes to your mental health, the quality of your relationships, your physical fitness, your career success, or your expertise in playing any instrument on the planet… all of it...
by Steve Hayes | Jun 29, 2021 | Emotion, Happiness, Relationships
A good man died a few days ago at the age of 87. He was one of the single most important persons in my life, and indeed he’s why I am a psychologist. I never met him. I corresponded with him only once – when I sent him a thank you note nearly 50 years after he’d...
by Steve Hayes | Jun 16, 2021 | Acceptance, Anxiety, Depression, Emotion
In his classic book “Man’s Search for Meaning” Victor Frankl tells the story of a client of his who was terrorized by a constant fear of sweating. Whenever he expected to perspire, he would become anxious, leading him to sweat profusely, which would thus confirm his...
by Steve Hayes | Apr 12, 2021 | Acceptance, Anxiety, Emotion, Happiness, Health
Imagine you are sitting in a car, and you are driving down a lonely highway. Suddenly, in the middle of nowhere, a warning light goes off. Your oil pressure is very low. If you just ignore it and continue your drive, you run the risk of doing serious damage to your...
by Steve Hayes | Mar 10, 2021 | Emotion, Relationships
When people talk about love, they often mean the intense kind of involuntary emotional states you “fall” into that go by that name. It’s a model of love you see in Disney movies, hear about in pop songs, and read about in corny romance novels. It’s the kind that...