by Steve Hayes | Jun 29, 2021 | Emotion, Happiness, Relationships
A good man died a few days ago at the age of 87. He was one of the single most important persons in my life, and indeed he’s why I am a psychologist. I never met him. I corresponded with him only once – when I sent him a thank you note nearly 50 years after he’d...
by Steve Hayes | Jun 16, 2021 | Acceptance, Anxiety, Depression, Emotion
In his classic book “Man’s Search for Meaning” Victor Frankl tells the story of a client of his who was terrorized by a constant fear of sweating. Whenever he expected to perspire, he would become anxious, leading him to sweat profusely, which would thus confirm his...
by Steve Hayes | May 13, 2021 | Evidence-Based Psychotherapy, Human Beings
The world is in the middle of chaotic change. We all feel it. The normative concepts we have lived inside for over a century are breaking down, and we are less and less willing to twist ourselves into pretzels to make them fit. “Have it your way” might have started...
by Steve Hayes | Apr 12, 2021 | Acceptance, Anxiety, Emotion, Happiness, Health
Imagine you are sitting in a car, and you are driving down a lonely highway. Suddenly, in the middle of nowhere, a warning light goes off. Your oil pressure is very low. If you just ignore it and continue your drive, you run the risk of doing serious damage to your...
by Steve Hayes | Mar 29, 2021 | Uncategorized
Our minds think in terms of categories and concepts. It comes easy to us. It’s how we make sense of the world, and our role within it. Unfortunately, however, this “common sense” approach blocks out alternative ways of thinking. In the last century, we’ve been...