by Steve Hayes | Nov 26, 2009 | Blog
Giving Thanks for the Journey I received this message a few days ago from someone involved in the ACT work. It was a message so painful and yet courageous I thought some might find comfort and support from it on this important day: Between the ages of about 5 until...
by Steve Hayes | Jun 21, 2009 | Blog
Holding Back from Life What makes us most human is what we care about. In a word, what matters most are our values. The problem is that what we care about is also where we get hurt – so we tend to hide out from our own caring. We keep it from others – if we are really...
by Steve Hayes | May 4, 2009 | Blog
Hard Won Wisdom in Dealing with Anxiety It is one of the ironies of life that verbal formulae are not quite the same as wisdom earned. That is why parents cannot quite save their children from having to make mistakes, and teachers cannot quite eliminate the...
by Steve Hayes | Mar 20, 2009 | Blog
Compassion For the Child Within We all have a child within – the child we once were. The pain of today that is most difficult to carry often goes back a long way – it touches that child. How we relate to that part of us is a good model for how we can move...
by Steve Hayes | Feb 15, 2009 | Blog
Human beings carry with them a cognitive toolset that allows them to plan, compare, and contrast. It is both useful and horrifying. We need to use it – but we also need to learn to rein it in. Unless we learn to rein it in, peace of mind, wholeness, and...
by Steve Hayes | Jan 20, 2009 | Blog
Inaugural Tears I was eight, sitting with my mother on the 1950’s style pink and grey sofa, watching the war clips on a small black and white screen. A funny looking man with a small mustache was shouting in a language I did not understand. I had no idea who he...